A wise man I know once said: “Life is about learning how to be at ease with things that aren’t easy”.
That line by itself has kept me going through some very difficult phases in my life.
I’ve discovered the truth in it, which is that ‘easy’ is a matter of perception.
And you as well as I, we can choose how we perceive things.
When we change our perception, that what is difficult becomes different: easy, bearable, temporary, a nuisance, or a fact of life – it changes.
I want to share my own best shift of perception, hoping it’ll help you too when times are tough.
Because perception or not, life tends to throw obstacles at us.
How we deal with them, that’s what matters.
Here’s how I deal with things in my own life: I talk to my inner stoic.
noun: stoic; plural noun: stoics; noun: Stoic; plural noun: Stoics
1. a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.
2. a member of the ancient philosophical school of Stoicism.
When something really rotten happens to me, I try to deal with it stoically.
Rationally, I know that what’s happening is either temporary, or can be changed.
Emotionally I might not feel good or at ease, but I don’t allow myself to be sucked into the whirlpool of whatever emotions are flaring up.
I just stand by, if you will, looking at my thoughts and my feelings, and try to be as unaffected as I can.
It’s not easy. It doesn’t always work. But it is ALWAYS a massive benefit to at least try
Because as soon as I call on my inner stoic, something, however small, in my perception starts to change.
The moment I take a breath and decide to let it slide by, is when a process of shifting perception starts.
And that usually continues, and grows exponentially.
And in the end, sooner rather than later, it grows into a different perception proper.
At that moment, I truly am unaffected, and I’m able to carry on with my work or my social activities.
Still not feeling grand, perhaps, but genuinely not hindered by that fact, while not negating anything either.
There’s no denial in any of this.
Just a calm poise, and a bit of patience. It’s not that hard either.
You too have a stoic hiding somewhere inside of you.
He’s there to help you, and he’s a healthy, natural part of your psyche.
It’s worth your time to ‘learn’ him.
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