Careful You Don’t Yes Too Much

There’s so many things out there that could get your attention, it might as well be an infinite amount. Sights, sounds, smells… people, ideas, books and cakes and boots and projects… more things you can choose, than you could ever count. As humans we need to select, and filter: we can only handle so many […]

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What It Does, VS What You Can Make It Do

It’s tempting to look at bottlenecks, moving parts that have gotten stuck, or broken processes. It’s an easy fix, to find something that’s broken and then fix it. Often, it’s unavoidable. But to me, it’s not all that interesting. Boring, even. I have a different approach, which is a ton more fun, much more creative, […]

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The Three Most Important Things I Learned as a Monk

1: Everything gets better and easier if you make it an act of service. And that’s true no matter what you dedicate that service to: self, other, god, humanity… whatever works for you. It’s about the attitude. (Oh, and if you’re one of those people who euphemise ‘serving customers’ into ‘servicing customers’: that’s not how […]

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The Real Reason I Always Talk About My Former Life as a Monk. Hope it Helps

And it’s not because I like talking about myself. Ok, full disclosure: I do. Not because I consider myself all that interesting, but I’m the only person about whom I have ALL the insider information – the good bits, the funny, the naughty, the learning curve and the mistakes made, and above all else: all […]

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I Was Sold to SO Hard – And I Love Every Minute of It

A little lesson about the psychology of effectively selling things for you today, in a way that allows you to live with yourself: It’s an early Spanish morning, first Saturday of the month – the day when there’s a rummage sale in the park. I saunter to and from the stalls, say hi to friends […]

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Attentionality

It breaks my heart to see people struggle, be it in life or business or relationships. Especially when the remedy – or at the very least, a massive improvement – is so close at hand and so simple. Because the easiest way to end up in a state of struggle, fretting, worrying, procrastination or what […]

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You Wayfarer, You

There’s a lot of bandying about changing the self, and mind, and mindset – and I talk about it as well. But not because I think you must change or that there’s something wrong with you. In fact, I don’t subscribe to the problem-thinking that says that there’s something wrong with us that needs fixing. […]

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Freedom vs Liberation

It’s natural to desire freedom. Freedom to make your own choices, spend time the way you want it, spend money as you please, freedom from oppression and manipulation and restrictions… all good things. But freedom is an abstract, it’s not tangible. I mean, you couldn’t bring me freedom and put it on the table, point […]

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Can’t Have the Good Without the Bad? Rubbish. Here’s How to Shift the Baseline

It’s a common notion, especially in relationships: that in order to have the good times, we also need to accept the bad times. A thing which is usually said by someone who’s been a jerk and uses it to justify causing a bad situation, I think. But I’m not a relationship expert. I am however […]

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All This, to What End?

Sometimes it’s difficult to stay motivated, to stay on task, to keep moving forward. What usually happens is that we start beating ourselves up, and we use our goals as the stick we do it with. Want to write that book. Have to pay those bills. Need to find more clients. Must get this project […]

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