I Was Sold to SO Hard – And I Love Every Minute of It

A little lesson about the psychology of effectively selling things for you today, in a way that allows you to live with yourself: It’s an early Spanish morning, first Saturday of the month – the day when there’s a rummage sale in the park. I saunter to and from the stalls, say hi to friends […]

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Attentionality

It breaks my heart to see people struggle, be it in life or business or relationships. Especially when the remedy – or at the very least, a massive improvement – is so close at hand and so simple. Because the easiest way to end up in a state of struggle, fretting, worrying, procrastination or what […]

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You Wayfarer, You

There’s a lot of bandying about changing the self, and mind, and mindset – and I talk about it as well. But not because I think you must change or that there’s something wrong with you. In fact, I don’t subscribe to the problem-thinking that says that there’s something wrong with us that needs fixing. […]

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Freedom vs Liberation

It’s natural to desire freedom. Freedom to make your own choices, spend time the way you want it, spend money as you please, freedom from oppression and manipulation and restrictions… all good things. But freedom is an abstract, it’s not tangible. I mean, you couldn’t bring me freedom and put it on the table, point […]

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Can’t Have the Good Without the Bad? Rubbish. Here’s How to Shift the Baseline

It’s a common notion, especially in relationships: that in order to have the good times, we also need to accept the bad times. A thing which is usually said by someone who’s been a jerk and uses it to justify causing a bad situation, I think. But I’m not a relationship expert. I am however […]

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All This, to What End?

Sometimes it’s difficult to stay motivated, to stay on task, to keep moving forward. What usually happens is that we start beating ourselves up, and we use our goals as the stick we do it with. Want to write that book. Have to pay those bills. Need to find more clients. Must get this project […]

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Enrollment

It’s easy to miss when we’re doing it: those moments when we’re trying to persuade someone, convince them of the use or validity of our point of view, or indeed, when we’re trying to goad someone else into some sort of action or decision. And whenever we fall into that attitude, the results vary from […]

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Design the Undesigned

It’s easy to spot good design – whether we’re talking about a car, a kitchen knife or a website. Good design is a joy to use, literally so. That’s what good design does: it affects your state. Bad design also affects your state. Sometimes in obvious ways and sometimes subtly – but even then, it […]

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The ‘Secret’ of the Happiness Outcome

I turn into my street, and there’s a guy with a map under the streetlight. Nice chap, mid 50s. I stop to give him directions, and we end up chatting. Turns out, he’s a scientist who was on the team for one of the biggest scientific breakthroughs of the last 5 years. (this is a […]

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The Antidote to ‘Death By Opportunity’

Housekeeping: Sorry about last Friday’s messy formatting – looks like some people had all kinds of weird characters in their email. With me you get typos free of charge, but that mess wasn’t meant to happen. Onwards: In a world as big as ours, there’s practically unlimited amount of opportunities. Every email you open, every […]

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