CRD Minicourse, Pillar 2: Outcome-Aligned Decisions

It’s awesome when we make a decision, and we get the outcome we planned for. You decide to visit your mother, you programme your GPS, and presto: a few hours later you’re knocking on the door. Happy outcome. Bring flowers. Most of the time though, the outcomes we get are probably nice, but nowhere near […]

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Free CRD Minicourse: How This Thing Actually Works

I thought it might be useful to explain what this Calibrate Reality Dojo framework is really all about. You know, in case you didn’t make it to the webinar last week. So over the next 9 days, I’ll be highlighting each individual pillar. Think of it like a mini-training… The premise of CRD: Everybody can, […]

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How a Teacher Blew my Mind 25 Years Ago

A lazy summer afternoon in the early 90’s, another class to sit through drowsily. With lazy movements we settle in and get our books out – but within minutes, I’m wide awake and super-switched on. What did the teacher just say? I’m around 20, studying to be a psychiatric nurse, and this class is on […]

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Be a Bigger Ear

You might think you’re this person thing, with a history and values and relationships and all… But really all that is just props for enabling you to be what you really are: A perception engine. (inaccurately illustrated in this piece as an ‘ear’. But you get the picture). What you are, at your most fundamental […]

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How to Stop ‘Good People Syndrome’ from Sapping Your Strength

Being liked makes a lot of sense. Whether your POV is business, evolution, sales, society or relationships: Being liked is worth a lot. It’s good to be ‘good people’. Opportunities, connections, sales, mentors and helpers: we tend to give a lot to those we like. In addition, helpfulness, altruism and a giving attitude are fantastic […]

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Sneaky Way we Sabotage Ourselves + the Remedy

When I get excited about an outcome, I imagine what that outcome can do for my life. And then I remove the actions and attitudes that are required to make that outcome real Wait, what’s going on there – isn’t Martin the productive, the sensible, the Good Decision Maker? I suppose I am, but I’m […]

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You will Benefit, Even if You Think You Don’t Have the Time

It doesn’t happen every year, but every so often, I enter a phase of pretty intense, lasting euphoria and happiness. It never lasts of course (as per the Sufi’s: this too shall pass), but while it’s there it’s pretty damn awesome. And it’s something you can work towards for yourself as well. Of course you […]

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Winey Neutered Goats Fly

Yeah, I thought that would get your attention – and no, I haven’t gone crazy. Thing is, I’m all about making things fun, easy, effortless – and the best way to do that, is by turning everything in life and business into some form of play. That’s why the core attitude I live by and […]

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Ain’t no Cost (Re: Calibrate Reality Webinar)

A reader yesterday told me she wouldn’t attend tomorrow’s CRD webinar, and that at some point in the future she might want to hire me. Looks like I didn’t make it sufficiently clear: this webinar is free, there’s no cost to it. In case that’s what has held you back from registering. And no, it’s […]

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Think More So You Get to Think Less

There’s two kinds of thinking: One is the automatic ‘stuck in your head’ kind, where your mind continuously tells you a story that explains your world and your experience to you. The other is where you deliberately, thoughtfully, logically apply sense. And while it’s a popular notion that thinking is overrated, that’s not correct. Mindlessly […]

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