That’s not trite pop-culture, it’s a fact.
Except most of us, we’re not aware of it. We aren’t aware of ourselves.
So we blame, condemn, judge, reject – anything to avoid looking at ourselves.
When in reality, what we see is what we are.
That’s how perception works.
Now, if you’re of a more scientific bent, you might disagree.
You might consider outside reality to be an objective presence, something that exists independently of you.
And while that’s probably true, it’s equally true that whatever reality you perceive, you are the one doing the perceiving.
And that means that you colour what you perceive.
There’s no other way.
You assign meaning to what you perceive.
One man might find it chilly today, while the other says it’s nice and mild out.
Same reality, two perceptions.
Sorry for the existentialist-philosophical side track btw. Regular programming will now resume.
So you as the perceiver are the determining factor in how you perceive.
Which means that the world you see is a reflection of you.
How you perceive something tell you something about how you’re configured.
Which is another way of saying: wherever you go, there you are.
And that notion is SO helpful, because you can learn a ton about yourself from how you perceive stuff.
And, you can change yourself, which causes you to perceive a different reality.
Somebody wrongs you? They probably have a reason for thinking that it’s right, even if they’re mistaken. So you get to ask yourself why it would be right, in their opinion.
Things don’t work out the way you want them to? The you get to consider it a learning experience that enables you to give it another go, only in a better way.
Stuff taking too long, success too slow on the pickup? Then you learn that you’re being impatient, and you get to change your expectations.
What it comes down to is reframing:
However you perceive something, there’s always another way that you can CHOOSE to perceive it.
But only always.
With the key word here being ‘choose’.
Because at any given time, remember that you’re the one who is the reason for how you perceive something.
And if you don’t like what you perceive, the only possible way to create change, is to change your perception.
So never forget:
Wherever you go, there you are.
Getting people to see that, and to discover how utterly malleable reality becomes once you get a grip on changing your perception, is what makes coaching so much fun.
So if you’re ready to change yourself and your perception and your reality, let me know.
I promise you a fun ride of discovery and change.