Where Are You At, and Where *Should* You Be At

Where are you at… and where *should* you be at?

Whatever your answer is, the question itself is the wrong one to ask.

In fact, there’s no possible way to give ‘the right’ answer, because it doesn’t exist.

The question itself is broken, because it’s a trick question.

Where you ‘should’ be at is right where you are, right now.

Which of course sucks if you’re not in a good place for whatever reason, but worry ye not, because there’s a solution.

Isn’t there always?

See, we all have stations of success and achievement we want to reach.

And not being at the level we want, that’s the way it’s supposed to be.


Because from where you are now, you get to choose what you will and won’t do, will and won’t allow into your life, in order to advance to that next level.

But you can’t get there if you’re struggling with frustration for not having reached that next level.

Spending energy (mentally and emotionally, but also when speaking with people) about where you should be, that energy goes to waste.

It’s much better to preserve it, to not mind that you are where you’re at, so that you can invest that energy in taking next steps.

You’ve only got so much energy to spend on any given day, so why would you waste it on frustration?

I know it might be hard to accept, but where you are is where you’re meant to be.

Because where you are now – bad or troublesome as it might be – is exactly, precisely, 100% the perfect starting point for moving forward.

A situation is only that, and we all know that situations change.

So take the current situation, decide on an action step, and launch into it with all your might.

And that’s how an ex-monk treats whatever situation that needs change – and you can do it too.

What you can also do is join The Cabal – that will definitely change your situation.

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