When People Tell Me I’m a Life-Coach

A crisp white shirt, a spotless countertop. The sushi chef takes the knife and starts moving it in figure eights, up and down a whetstone. Once satisfied with the keenness of the edge, he puts his gear away and brings out cutting board and edibles.

With deliberate, calculated, utterly precise movements, he creates perfect shapes, slices, chunks.

His precision and focus are amazing. To bring such presence to a task, to be so fully absorbed in focus… to wield a tool so deftly and expertly…

If you’ve ever seen a master craftsman at work, you too must have marveled at the level of expertise.

I’m writing this, because sometimes I get ‘accused’ of being a life coach.

(There’s nothing wrong with life-coaching – it’s just an industry I like to pick on because there’s so much fluff and empty rah-rah types in that niche).

So yeah, I’m not a life-coach. But what then is Martin for?

What change do people experience when working with me?

Used to be, I’d answer ‘I teach you martial arts for the mind’, and that’s nice. But what does that *do*? What does that give you?

After much contemplation, I think I’ve found a simile that might make sense:

Instead of life coach, I prefer to look at it as mind-coach.

Going back to our friend the sushi chef:

I can show you how to sharpen the mind to a keen edge, and then I can show you how to use that mind of yours with precision and intentionality.

And as you know, there’s nothing if it’s not in the mind.

How you think, question, observe, decide – all the things that you do with your mind, are the things that shape the world you live in.

And sure, the results affect all areas of life – from relationships to sales to your posture to how well you sleep.

Because how you run your mind (as opposed to the far more common ‘being run by mind’) is where it all starts.

You’ll find that the more you achieve control and mastery over your mind, the better things get across the board.

And after 25 years of psychology, 12 years in a monastery, and over a decade being in business, I know a trick or two where it comes to how to improve the mind.

Simply put, the mind is the most powerful tool we have.

Do you want to carelessly flail it about like so many others do – or do you instead want to learn how to use that tool for efficiency, precision and results?

In other words, do you want to handle your mind the way a sushi-chef handles their knives, or a poet handles words, or a pilot their airplane…?

Do you want to learn how to use your mind the way an ex-monk can show you?



Also published on Medium.

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