You know I’m not the kind of guy to jump on bandwagons, but in all the talk about goalsetting, and reviewing the year and the decade, and gearing up for a new one, there’s something missing – and it’s possible the single most important notion for you to install, if you want to *actually get* what you *actually want to get*.
And I chose those words with care, in that order, because:
What you think you want, isn’t usually the same as what you really want. Meaning, on a subconscious level.
“What is it that you really want” is a fantastic question to ask (yourself or others), but it’s the reason why you want that, where things start getting interesting.
And then the reason why you want that, and the reason behind that…
It’s similar to the ‘5 why’s’ principle, except you ask 5 times: “What about that makes me want it?’.
You’ll quickly come to an insight as to the deeper reason, and that will serve you set the right goals.
Because the goalsetting secret nobody seems to talk about is that our mind may well set goals and make plans, but it’s our subconscious that mostly drives where we’ll end up.
It’s what your subconscious wants that’s dominant in how you think, decide, and operate, so you’d better *know* what your subconscious wants.
That way, you can set goals that are aligned both with your mind, and your gut&instinct. And those goals are the kinds you’ll achieve – whereas if there is no alignment, things probably will be a struggle, or won’t work, or you’ll be stressed and overwhelmed or things will end up a mess…
Been there, have you? Yeah, me too.
What you want to achieve in 2020 is one thing. What your subconscious wants to achieve is probably, somehow, different.
Figure out what it is, and overlay the two. Happy 2020 etc etc.
And if you didn’t reach your goals, it’s good to do some thinking and figure out in what way your subconscious wanted something other than what you rationally told yourself you wanted, because likely there was something off there.
Meanwhile, I’ve just had an idea:
What if I give you a single, one-off session, specifically intended to help you set the best possible goals for the year?
I don’t usually do this, because clients work with me in coaching programmes, and not one-off sessions…
But hey it’s Christmas, so why not make an exception and help you get started right in the new year?
We’ll take 50 minutes on Zoom, put an X-ray on your aspirations and challenges, and create a set of goals that are as perfectly aligned as possible.
And unlike my normal fees, which are much higher, this session will be only $50. I’ve no idea how many people will sign up for this, so this offer can disappear at any time.
Want goals that are actually attainable, plus advice on how to reach them?
Let me know…
Also published on Medium.