Outcomes, Decisions, Agency – and the Problem With Learning

Now that you’ve seen how the 9 pillars of Calibrate Reality Dojo go together, I need to point out something:

It’s all academic and fairly useless – UNLESS you put it to use.

Any theory, or framework, or system… whatever it is that you learn, it won’t do you much good unless you put it to use.

A fact of life which is conveniently (and unethically) exploited by many publishers of information products.

Always telling us that we need to read their book, watch their video, buy their course – because, so they try and convince us, without this extra knowledge, you’re not complete and don’t know enough and will unavoidably end up bankrupt, paralysed, living under a bridge, and generally suffer the quality of life that a medieval impoverished peasant used to enjoy.

But learning is for the mind, and the mind by itself doesn’t really do much.

It’s US doing things that causes change.

Which is why CRD comes with instructions on how to make the theory actually work for you, and it comes with two tools:

Decisions, and journaling.

Journaling in order to reach decisions – decisions that are designed to create a specific outcome for you, whether that’s in business, relationships, or life in general.

And, decisions that position you to take action. The bigger action, the better.

And how to journal in that particular way?

It’s real simple.

Pick an issue that you want to resolve or improve, and turn it into:

An outcome-aligned, agency-based question.

In other words: the question needs to ask how to get to a particular, specifically designed outcome.

And, the question needs to position you as the agent of change, the single responsible party for making something happen.

It’s remarkable how quickly writing your way through questions like that can get you clarity, can get you to a decision that has you take action.

Example: “Why isn’t this working better?” won’t help much.

But “What action can I take in order to make [thing X] work better?” will trigger a completely different process of discovery in your mind.

Or “What decision can I make about my focus, so that [thing X] will work better?”

Or “What can I eliminate so that [thing X] will work better?”

See the mechanism here?

You define an outcome. You ask yourself what YOU can do (or not do, in case of overwhelm or ineffective busyness) and then you let your subconscious speak up, make it’s way out through your pen.

Have you tried?

(Betcha you haven’t – and I’ll bet that if you do, you’ll be amazed at what’s hiding just below the surface of your mind…)

I routinely give coaching clients a writing prompt or exercise during sessions – and so far it has never failed to create clarity and lead to sensible decisions.

Want to try for yourself?

You now have the instructions to do it… and do it the right way.

Unless of course, you’d rather keep things as they are… That’s a decision too.

What decision will you make today?



Also published on Medium.

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