The Million Dollar Question for When You Just Don’t Know What to Do

Sometimes, you just don’t know what to do.

You try stuff, work hard, but you’re just not getting the results you’re expecting.

And then you get stuck.

What to do next?

How to fix?

Where do things break?

What am I doing wrong?

Depending on the situation, those may all be the wrong questions.

If that’s the case, ask yourself this:

“What does that tell you?”

See, questions are the answer.

And some questions just don’t get you the right answer.

Here’s the trick: your brain and your intuition are massively capable of coming up with answers.

But you need to allow for them to surface, and for that you need to ask the right questions.

Which is why people who work with a coach see results, because the job of a coach is to ask the right questions.

And “What does that tell me?” is a brilliant question.

Because it doesn’t aim to solve a problem or fix something broken.

Looking for the cause of a problem can work, but it involves tunnel vision and narrow focus.

And that can lead to you staying stuck, not seeing the solutions or answers you need.

But when you ask “What does that tell me?” you are open to any and all answers and insights that may surface.

Obviously, you might end up with answers like “It tells me that I don’t know” or “Because it was a bad idea” or other negative notions.

When that happens, follow with another question:

“What else does it tell me?”

Keep repeating that last one until you find the solution that enables forward momentum.

Your brain is powerful.

Play with it.

Cheers,

Martin


Also published on Medium.

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