How to Not Sabotage Yourself

Have you ever looked back at a situation, and though: “man, I sure screwed that one up”.

Maybe a job interview, or a relationship, a business partnership, a sale…?

I sure have.

Everything was going swimmingly, and then suddenly I do or say something, and the whole thing falls apart.

Self sabotage.

Another fun yet useless aspect of the human condition.

There can be all kinds of reasons, of course.

From fear of success, to (oddly) fear of failure, to childhood trauma or simple insecurity…

Who knows what makes us do what we do… I sure don’t.

But, one of the biggest pitfalls we can step into, one that pretty much guarantees self-sabotage, is to do with the goals we set ourselves.

See, there are two kinds of goals: those that enable you to reach them and then the next one and the next one – and those that prevent you from even reaching the first.

This is why New Year’s resolutions are pretty much 100% useless.

They only work for an incredibly small subset of humanity.

And if you’ve ever failed your resolutions, you’re not part of it.

(Don’t feel bad: neither am I).

People like us, we need to go about things differently.

We don’t run on willpower alone: we need clever approaches.

(Besides, willpower is finite: you have less of it the more decisions you make – tried and proven in scientific research).

So for most all people it’s not the thing we should rely on anyway.

For example, using ‘enabling goals’.

These are the kind I mentioned, the ones that when you reach them, enable and empower you to reach the next.

How to find out if a theoretical goal is an enabling goal?

The S.M.A.R.T goalsetting strategy will tell you.

If a goal is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely, you’re good to go.

If any of those five are missing, you need to adjust the goal before you set it.

But there’s more to it.

If you want to really make waves in 2016, you also need to choose goals that will have a considerable impact on your progress and your results.

So think about it.

Are you going to go for New Year’s resolutions again, or are you going to get smart about your plan, strategy, and goals…?

If the latter, the December LEAP Art Marketing Newsletter will get you very clear on which goals to choose, in which order, and give you instructions on how to set them so that you’ll stick with them.

She goes to the printer’s tomorrow, and the deadline to get it is tonight at midnight.

And you can get in on time if you click here –> http://martinstellar.com/leap-to-more-sales/

Cheers,

Martin

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