Question for you:
On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you with where you’re at with your life?
Could be around a variety of things, depending on your values and/or what most needs improvement:
– Personal relationships
– Progressing towards your goals…
Whatever is most relevant right now, what’s your satisfaction number at the moment?
The reason I’m asking, is that whether you rate your satisfaction high or low, there’s one universal notion:
What got you here will keep you here.
I’d almost go as far as calling it a truth, but I don’t want to pontificate (not today, at least ;)
What got you here won’t get you there.
Whatever stage you’re at right now, you got there because of your particular mix of skills, talents and abilities.
Combined with your networks, your efforts and your behavioural patterns:
That’s you, that’s what you built and that’s what you have achieved.
So: well done.
You’re still around, and still growing towards your dreams.
Or, maybe you’re quite successful, in which case: nicely played.
But whether you’re on the make or enjoying success, you might feel that there’s a limit you’ve reached, a glass ceiling.
And no matter what you do, you keep banging your head against it.
How does that work, why can’t you reach higher levels?
Others do it, and you sure aren’t lacking in drive or intelligence or skills…
So what gives?
This: you’ve reached the limits of what can be accomplished with your particular set of skills, mindset, effort, and behavioural patterns.
You got to where you are by virtue of you, but now ‘you’ needs to change in order to move forward.
So when you feel stuck and you do want to grow, something’s got to change.
And that change has to happen on the inside, it’s the only thing that works.
You work on yourself, so that you get to see different results on the outside.
That satisfaction number, it will never rise unless you work on yourself.
This is precisely why people work with coaches, and why I hired one for myself.
And yes, it changed me.
In various ways, some quite unexpected.
For example, my posture has improved considerably – which you might think doesn’t matter much in business, but now I get to feel more confident and show up more confidently when meeting people.
Which helps a lot, I can tell you.
Curiously, the subject of posture was never even touched when talking to my coach.
Yet a 40-year old habit of stooping got changed, and I didn’t even see it happen.
And, it’s a perfect example of how coaching changes you on subtle, yet fundamental levels.
Working with a coach will cause you to think differently, see things (and your world and yourself) differently, and as a consequence you will see subtle changes in your behaviour and your decisions.
And when that happens, you’ll have changed the ‘what got you here’ into a ‘what can get you there’.
So, want to raise that satisfaction number for yourself?
If so, let me know. I’d love to help you.