This book I mentioned the other day, it’s REALLY good.
Honestly, The Willpower Instinct will transform how you see yourself and how you behave.
This morning I read a passage about social proof, and how willpower or lack thereof is contagious.
Fits in perfectly with my views.
They say that we’re the sum of the 5 people we spend most time with or:
Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.
And while that might sound like nothing more than a motivational quote you see on Facebook, there’s actually a ton of evolutionary brain science behind it.
See, we’re safety-seeking machines, we are.
Primary directive of the human being: survive.
Which is why we’re build to belong to tribes, and programmed to observe what others do.
And when there’s consentual action, our lizard brain tells us it’ll probably increase our chance of survival and well-being to follow suit with what the others are doing.
If the whole tribe chases after a buffalo, it probably means dinner is on the horizon, whereas if nobody ever tries to kill a tiger, there’s probably a reason for that.
In his book Influence, the psychologist Robert Cialdini describes how he once had a minor car accident.
He stumbled out of his car in the middle of the crossroads, dazed and with a some injuries.
He needed help, as did the other driver, but none of the passing cars stopped.
Until he pointed straight at an oncoming driver, and then to the side of the road.
The driver pulled over, and lo and behold: several other drivers also stopped to lend a hand.
It might sound weird, but it’s how we’re wired: we take the example of others to guide our own behaviour.
The best way to give people to donate to a charity, is to tell them ‘The people in your neighbourhood are the most generous of all the people in this city’.
Things like these have been tested and proven over and over again.
Why this matters to you?
Where you look, who you hang out with, and the examples that you see, will strongly influence the way you yourself choose and act.
So if you’re always hanging around with starving artists, who refuse to take action, who are afraid or unable to change their mindset…
Then guess what happens?
There’s no certainty, but it’s highly probably that you yourself won’t leave behind the starving artist life either.
And while you and I may not have ever met, I do believe you deserve better than that.
Over the last few years, I’ve become ever more deliberate about who I spend time with, with a steep upward curve to seek out more high-performing people in the past weeks.
And I tell you: the effect it has on me is amazingly empowering.
So if there’s anything I want you to take away from today’s missive, it’s this:
Find people who inspire you, who accomplish things, who manifest their dreams, and allow yourself be contaminated by their drive, zest, and action-oriented attitude.
Your future self will thank you for it, I assure you.
Are you already an action taker?
Who doesn’t buy into the starving artist nonsense?
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