Tryptich: The Cure for Procrastination, Part 4

What, a tryptich in four parts?

Well of course, why not.

If Douglas Adams can write a trilogy in 5 parts, then so can I, see if I don’t.

And today’s procrastination mind-bender is about self-sabotage, and specifically about *who* in your mind sabotages you.

Because most people think that it’s some sort of broken part of the subconscious.

Something damaged, from the past, something wrong that should be eliminated.

But most people are wrong.

See, the psychological part of you that causes self-sabotage isn’t an enemy.

Quite the contrary.

The part of you that sabotages you is your friend, your protector.

Except, he or she behaves like a bodyguard constantly beating up the client he is hired to protect.

So what’s going on there, why does that happen?

To explain that, I take you back to the stone age, to meet my old friend:

A caveman name Grog.

Say hi to the nice people, Grog.

“Urgh!”

There’s a good caveman.

Now Grog here – put that club DOWN, Grog. Just go sit there and rub these two sticks together.

As I was saying, Grog here, he doesn’t think much.

His brain doesn’t have the size required to read, or speak, or post cat pics on Facebook.

It’s barely big enough to remember that certain animals are tasty and others are too dangerous, and to remember that this berry is sweet and the other makes him feel ill.

Yet somehow, he’s extremely good at surviving.

Whatever danger shows up, he’s got an uncanny ability to ward it off.

So good, in fact, that you and I are proof of that survival skill.

And the reason he has that skill even if he couldn’t say ‘watch out!’ to save his wife wife Shreeka’s life?

His limbic system, also known as the lizard brain, rules the roost.

It’s the oldest part of the brain in terms of evolution – it’s the stem, and it’s there to protect us.

It’s instinctive, and it’s core mission statement?

Protect from harm, increase pleasure.

That’s all it does, and whatever we think or feel or want, if the limbic system recognises fear, it steps on the breaks.

That’s what causes your reflexes – like when you’re in traffic and your foot is on the break even before you’re conscious that the tail light ahead of you came on.

It’s what drives you hand to grab the falling cup, just before it hits the floor.

And, even though we evolved to have far more abilities and brain centers, the limbic system has permanent overrule permission.

We may be intelligent these days, but the protector still protects.

And when we self-sabotage, it’s that limbic system doing it.

The bodyguard beating up his client.

But how?

Why?

If it wants pleasure and happiness for us, why won’t it let us get more successful, more focused, more productive?

Why doesn’t it allow us to kick procrastination to the curb?

Because of the unknown.

In prehistoric times, anything new and unfamiliar was potentially deadly.

And so the limbic system sabotages our efforts to venture into the unknown.

And, our chances of success too.

Because when we change, when we take massive action, become successful…

We change.

Things change.

Responsibilities, activities, wealth, relationships… everything changes, including yourself.

And what do things change into?

Who will you be?

Who will you be with?

Who will you lose?

What will your life be like?

We may have some idea, but in reality we can’t predict, it’s mostly a great unknown.

We just know we want to be successful, and enjoy it – but what it will look like?

No telling.

So you make a choice, to get things done, to build your success, and the limbic system agrees: sure, that’ll make you happy. Go for it.

But then it’s automatic protection program kicks in, realises that doing those things is going to open up some sort of Pandora’s box, and decides that no, you’re not going to do that.

Much better to stay here, where you are.

It’s safe here, isn’t it?

Comfortable, nothing wrong staying here.

Even if it’s uncomfortable – at least you know how uncomfortable.

So that’s why our protector sabotages us.

But now, what can we do about it?

To answer that, I’m giving you a simple, 5-step solution, courtesy of the very clever psychologist Peter Shallard.

Step 1: Identify what it is, specifically, that scares you

Fear only ever has one meaning; that there is an upcoming situation you need to prepare for in some way. Whether you’re facing a tiger in the jungle, or your first ever sales presentation, this is true.

Identify the message your Lizard Brain is attempting to send you by getting clear on what you’re afraid of.

Step 2: Acknowledge the Lizard Brain’s ultimate intention

Every part of you, Lizard Brain included, is doing the best it can to move you towards you goals. The confusing part is the incongruity of you consciously wanting to take action, be extraordinary and win success… while your Lizard Brain is pulling you towards safety and the security of inaction.

Acknowledge and respect the Lizard Brain’s intention by asking yourself what it’s ultimate purpose could be. You’ll soon figure out that it simply wants you to be safe, so that you can relax, be comfortable and be happy.

Step 3: Reassure your Lizard Brain that your intentions are aligned

Ask yourself why you desire your big goals. It’ll be for success, freedom, wealth and happiness.

The key here is that both you and your Lizard Brain want the same thing (happiness) – you just have different ways of doing it. Reassure that fearful part of you by reminding it of your highest possible intention for yourself (happiness).

How can that old internal conflict exist when both you and your Lizard Brain want the same thing? That’s right….

Step 4: Flip the equation

Ask your lizard brain how it would feel if, in 5, 10 or 20 years you hadn’t progressed towards your big goals. Imagine giving in to your old Lizard
Brain fears, permanently, then waking up in 20 years to realise what you’d done.

Turn the fear equation on it’s head by having your Lizard focus on the disastrous consequences of always settling on what is safe.

Have it really feel the fear.

FINAL STEP: Take action

Go do the thing that used to scare you most.

~ Peter Shallard

And my addition to that?

If the thing that scares you most is too big, then start small.

There’s need to jump over your fear – you can also grow you capacity by leaning into it.

Feel the thing that’s just a bit scary, feels a bit edgy, and start with that.

Repeat.

Over time, you’ll see yourself take more and bigger actions, and procrastination will fade into the background.

Final note?

Never, ever beat yourself up for procrastinating, because now you know that it only happens because you yourself are trying to protect yourself.

And I’d say, make peace with that, be grateful for it.

Ok, one more: if you like this type of insight, I highly recommend you head on over to Peter’s blog at PeterShallard.com. The guy’s a genius.

Cheers,

Martin

Tryptich: How to Beat Procrastination, Part 3

One of the easiest way to beat procrastination is to get clever on how you create your to-do lists.

You know, the tasks you’ve decided you want to or should do.

For most people, a task list will look something like this.

– Build new website

– Lose weight

– Learn how to play the piano

– Find more buyers

– Empty email inbox

– Sell photos online

And on and on it goes.

You look at that list, panic sets in, a feeling of defeat comes up, and off you go scrolling through Facebook/Pinterest, or giving your kitchen cupboards that deep cleaning they need so badly.

So look at that list there.

Can you tell me what’s wrong with it?

I’ll tell you: those aren’t tasks.

They are goals.

The difference is huge, and the mistake is so easy to make.

You have a goal in mind, and without further though you put that one on your to-do list.

But that’s not where it belongs!

See, each goal, big or small, consists of several smaller subgoals, and each of those are reached by performing small tasks.

Building a website consists of registering a domain name, researching a host, choosing a host, signing up, installing WordPress or another engine, choosing a theme, installing a
theme… and so on.

So obviously, if you make the mistake of filling your to-do list with goals, your subconscious will see that list and decide ‘screw this, you and I are going on vacation’.

So if you struggle with procrastination and your to-do lists, do this (ha!):

Take all the goals you have, and put each of them on a separate piece of paper (or Word doc).

Write the goal at the top, and put a horizontal line under it.

Under the line, start listing all the subgoals.

Take each subgoal, and put it on a separate piece of paper.

Line under it, and then… the magic happens.

Then you write down all the tasks that have to be completed to reach the subgoals.

When you’re done with one goal, put the papers in a folder, and repeat the process for your next goal.

This is powerful, life-changing stuff, and my thighs agree.

Wait, thighs? What now?

Well, for years I’ve wanted to start practicing some sort of martial arts.

But ‘start martial artists’ is not a task or to-do, it’s a goal.

But last Sunday I had coffee with a friend who’s also a coach, and when I described what I want out of martial arts, he said that Aikido would be a good thing to try.

I liked the idea, so, without even thinking about it, I grabbed my phone and emailed myself a reminder: “Find martial arts teacher”.

Monday morning I found the email, I googled for local teachers, and found one.

It looked good, nice and austere, Zen-like, proper stuff.

Called him up, agreed to go to the training the same day, and that’s what I did.

And that’s why right now, my thighs hurt like you wouldn’t believe.

Awesome stuff though – I believe that Aikido just really might be my thing.

In fact, if it wouldn’t be for the first Cabal session tonight, I’d go again today.

So now I’ve started practising martial arts, just because I turned a goal into a smaller task.

And you can do the same thing for yourself.

Take it small, start with just one small goal, and break that puppy down into subgoals and subsequent tasks.

There’s a big chance that you’ll start taking action on them right when you’re done.

And hey, while it might seem at first that you’re not making a lot of progress, don’t forget that water cuts stone.

If you release a drop on granite every second, in the end there will be a hole in the stone.

It’ll take centuries, but compound influence adds up to result.

Guaranteed.

And you’re bigger than just a drop, when it comes to taking action.

Or to put it differently: progress not perfection.

Keep your eye on one task after another, and don’t worry about how fast you’ll reach the goal.

Keep your eye on the task at hand and then the next one, and you’ll reach the goal sooner than you expect.

Cheers,

Martin

Tryptich: The Cure for Procrastination, Part 2

The session is going well.

We’re doing some deep inner work, and my client is going through a series of important insights.

“PING!”

Instantly, his eyes shoot to the corner of the screen.

An email has come in.

A short pause as he reads the notification excerpt, and he continues talking to me.

Happens to nearly all of us.

No big deal, right?

A notification, a tiny interruption, something you’ll deal with later, and then you go on with your day.

Actually, it’s a huge deal.

It’s a massive, problematic, disruptive and destructive issue.

Why?

Because in studies it’s been found that when you’re in the zone, any disruption or distraction will take you out of it – and on average it takes you something like 17 minutes to get back into it.

Which means that for that one tiny interruption, you lose almost a third of an hour of you best, most focused, zone of genius attention.

Three interruptions in an hour?

There’s an entire hour of the best of you, down the drain.

And we all get far, far more than three an hour.

Watsapp, email, sms, skype, Messenger… ping ping ping, all day long.

No wonder so many people feel overwhelmed and unable to really get big stuff done.

We’re being distracted all the time, and we don’t even know how much damage that does to our productivity.

And the worst of it?

When we end up in that ‘always pulled out of the zone’ state, picking up a task and getting it done becomes something we procrastinate on.

Because we’re incessantly being forced to not finish a task, our motivation and our confidence plummet.

Which makes us even less motivated to stop procrastinating.

So today, I’m giving you a challenge.

For one week, turn off all notifications.

Your phone, laptop, your tablet… don’t let anything ping or flash at you.

Just one week… I know you can do it.

When I made that choice, several important things happened.

For one thing, I instantly felt better. As in, the very same day.

And, I became more focused and more productive.

Not bad, for just a few clicks.

And as for email and stuff?

Simply set fixed times throughout the day for checking what’s come in.

Very few, if any, messages are so urgent that they can’t wait for an hour or two.

Try this.

It just might transform your work.

And by not trying to ‘fix procrastination’ or developing discipline, you might find you stop procrastinating…

Let me know how it goes.

Meanwhile, registration for The Cabal is open.

If you’ve been on the fence about joining, today might be the day you choose to schedule a call with me.

Or you could procrastinate on it, if you like.

Then again, you could procrastinate on that procrastination, as per yesterday’s missive.

Up to you…

Cabal information here: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Cheers,

Martin

Tryptic: The Cure for Procrastination, Part 1

This week, let’s tackle one of the most insidious and destructive habits there are:

And I’m not talking about nailbiting.

This week we’re going to deal with procrastination.

I rarely meet a person who doesn’t procrastinate, and, yes, I do it too.

But I’ve learned a few things that really help, so I’ll be sharing my tips this week.

So let’s kick off this trilogy with a very simple, very powerful, science-backed tool.

What I want you to try, is to procrastinate on your procrastination.

Yes, I’m being serious.

Here’s the deal.

There may be all kinds of reasons why we put off doing things we want to do or know we ought to do.

Of course you can try discipline, but if you don’t have enough of it, it’ll take a long time and a drill sergeant to build it.

Another way would be to dive deep into psychology and personal history, but that’s a long and arduous process.

I prefer to tackle things in, and from, the right here and right now.

And when you procrastinate, for whatever reason, what happens is that your brain instantly feels a reward.

Whether it’s a boring task, or an unpleasant one, or even one that’s fun but somehow associated with fear of failure or other insecurities, putting off that job gives instant relief.

Your brain likes it, and the pleasure centers in your brain light up like fireworks.

Of course the rational mind knows that it’s all sham-pleasure, but the rational mind has little influence over the subconscious.

Quite the opposite in fact.

So here’s where deliberately procrastinating on your procrastination comes in.

When researchers put people into fMRI scanners, they discovered something very interesting:

When a test subject thought about skipping exercise tomorrow, exactly the same reaction took place in the brain, as when they thought about skipping it today.

To the brain, there’s not difference between procrastinating now, and deciding you’ll procrastinate tomorrow.

It gives the exact same psychological relief, the same reward.

So next time you feel tempted to put off a task, tell yourself:

“I’ll skip it tomorrow”.

Try this, really try this, because it works.

Maybe not instantly or every time, but it works.

Try it.

Meanwhile, registration for The Cabal will open today, and there’s still seats available.

I’m not going to do the marketer-thingy, and say ‘hurry, only a few left’, because I’m not like that, and besides: we’re still only a small group.

And that’s exactly how I want it, because I’m very picky about who can or can’t join.

A small team of highly motivated and ambitious action takers is what we’re building here.

So if you want to be part of that, hit reply and we’ll set up a time to talk, and see if it is something that would benefit you.

More information about who I’m looking for, right here: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Cheers,

Martin

Are You From a Land Down Under? (Also: Why is Vegemite?)

Right, so I’ve been asked if the weekly Cabal meetings can be set at a time that also works for people in the Southern Hemisphere.

And, you know, I long for the days when the world was still flat, and every country had the same time zone.

That would make things so easy.

But science doesn’t ever stop and so the earth became round.

And ever since that happened, America sleeps right when Australians are busy fighting alligators.

And vice versa.

Minus the alligators, I suppose.

Anyway: there’s Buckley’s chance that times for the Cabal sessions will line up between the Northern and Southern hemisphere.

Unless the world becomes flat again.

And I doubt scientists will allow that to happen.

BUT!

What I can do however, is create a secondary Cabal group, especially for ambitious creatives in the Southern hemisphere.

Because it just so happens that Europe and Oz/NZ have a nice timezone overlap during working hours.

So, are you from a land down under?

And, you reckon that The Cabal (weekly group coaching sessions+a private forum+unlimited email access to me) might be just what you need?

Then hit reply and let me know.

If there’s enough interest, I’ll give it a burl and see if we can make it work for you down in the Southern Hemisphere.

Like, when you’re not busy fighting sharks and tossing venomous spiders out of the yard with yer bare hands and such.

On another note: why is Vegemite??? (Honestly, I want to know)

Ta,

Martin

The Ca-WHAT now? More info here: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Huh… A Perspective That Even I Had Never Considered Before…

…and another perspective I consider a lot, and use every day.

Here’s the story:

A while ago while coaching a client, he said something that had me stumped.

Because his perspective was something completely new to me.

His name is Richard Hall of richardhallfineart.com, and he gave me permission to share with you:

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I so much look forward to these weekly calls, Martin.

They’re so very helpful.

You’re our secret weapon.

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Secret weapon… me?

Ha, I love that, I really do.

Makes sense though.

See when I started coaching, there was a lot of advice-giving involved.

Do this, do that, step one and two and three…

But as I got better at it, I discovered that it’s FAR more effective to work on the ‘in-here’ rather than on things to do.

After all, there’s plenty of teaching available out there.

Pricing, sales psychology, social media or how to run shows or get into galleries…

Name an issue you want to get better at, and there’s a book or course or webinar for it.

But what you can’t get from a book, at least not as fast and intensely deep, is seeing what you’re not saying.

Meaning:

When I coach people, what someone says is only one side of the story.

What interests me is what people are NOT saying.

The things that are hidden behind the evident and the obvious.

That’s the perspective that interests me.

Because those inner and hidden things are causal to the effects and the reality we build.

What happens on the inside, in your sub-conscious, that’s the stuff that either builds your success or sabotages it.

And that’s exactly the kind of thing we work on.

And that’s why the ‘secret weapon’ perspective makes so much sense.

Anyone you know who has done big or impressive ambitious things did it because they changed… on the inside.

All of them, always.

Sometimes when people ask me what I do, I say that I’m a therapist for people who don’t have problems.

Which is of course a joke, but only halfway so.

Everyone has problems of some sort, and some things need attention and work.

But I’m not a therapist, or counselor or analyst.

I’m a coach, which means I look for your biggest ambition, your biggest, most hairy, most audacious goal, and then we work to prepare you to reach that goal, one step at a time.

In other words: change starts with the individual, on the inside.

It’s only from that point of origin that the outside world will change.

Which Richard (and his wife Sharon – I coach them together during our sessions) have seen happen.

Over the last half year or so, they’ve seen huge change happen.

And I wish the same for you.

But only if you want change.

Do you?

Then maybe The Cabal will be right for you.

You can either schedule a call with me here: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11652475&appointmentType=1765187

Or, go to this page to find out more about what The Cabal for business is all about: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Either way, whether you want to join the Cabal or not… if you’re looking for different results, ask yourself these questions:

What’s good in your life?

What’s missing in your life?

What is keeping it out?

Chew on those for  a while, make lists, brainstorm – see what happens.

Or join the movement and we’ll work on it together.

Cheers,

Martin

Take the Quiz: Is the Cabal Right for You?

Alright, it’s not an actual quiz, but:

Yesterday, a friend asked me who The Cabal is for, which type of person I’m looking for.

So I figured I’d share the answer to that question, see if that clears things up for you.

Here goes:

The people I’m looking for can be makers of any kind.

Artist or not, Cabal members need to consider themselves creators, makers.

Whether you create art, or you write, or you’re building a business around growing and selling ecological produce, it makes no difference.

What matters is that you’re aware of your nature as a creator of things, and that you create deliberately.

I don’t mind what you build or paint, as long as it’s something good, something I can get behind.

The founder of the next Coca Cola doesn’t have the values I’m looking for and wouldn’t be a good fit.

Where it comes to the subject matter of your work, it’s not my business if you’re into alternative or ethereal subject matter.

What is my business, is that you have your feet on the ground and your hands on the wheel.

Cabal members are: helpful, open to feedback, and they take action.

Especially when it comes to fear – this place is for people who take action despite the fear.

Cabal members have a big ambition and a big drive.

Passion is what we’re doing here, there’s no room for wishy-washy.

In The Cabal, we turn passion into a verb.

Cabal members are willing to face their fears, demons, limiting beliefs, and are willing to take bold action so as to remove them, bit by bit.

The Cabal is for people with an ambition.

People who inspire others, and want to do more of that and in bigger ways.

People who are successful, in whatever way or degree.

That doesn’t mean you have to be a published author, or earn a fulltime living from your creative work, or be famous or wealthy.

Success has many different definitions, and each of us defines our own success.

What matters far more than the level or type of success you have, is that you have the ambition to grow it.

As for the nature of The Cabal: this is not just group coaching with a mastermind and forum tacked on.

The Cabal is a movement.

My coach said he wants me to become a cult leader, and I still don’t know if he was joking or not.

I hope he was.

But if he wasn’t (he was, trust me) then this Cabal, this movement, would be my ‘cult’.

So the makers who join have to be people who want to be part of a movement.

Is that you?

Want to know more?

Then click this link to schedule a call with me: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Cheers,

Martin

Massive Results: People Coming to You vs You Having to Chase After Them

Let me tell you about two of my favourite clients.

(I love all my clients, but these two stories are just magnificent).

First, there’s Anook Cleonne.

A well-known Dutch artist with a great reputation.

Her work in private collections, several musea…

But, she’d gotten tired of spinning her wheels, seeking buyers, doing all the right things yet not seeing the right results.

So we worked together, and I coached her.

And the other day she sent me a video, where she said something wonderful:

She no longer has to run after people, because these days, people come to her.

How’s that for massive change?

But here’s the thing:

It’s not because of the instructions I gave her, or the advice, or the action steps.

Sure, I coached her on which things to do and in which order.

But the real change, the big and important shift, happened on the inside.

It’s because I invited her to see things differently, that she herself changed, and that changed her business and fanbase and results.

Why?

Because she came wanting change.

Eager, looking for the next stage in her art career.

And that’s exactly what she got.

Because Anook has a big, inspiring ambition.

Next up, there’s Paula Mould.

Her story is possibly even more amazing.

All her life, she’d been a people-pleasing introvert, afraid to speak up and stand up for herself.

But over the course of a year, she made some very radical choices.

I won’t go into personal details, but she went from being an introvert with little power, to being a complete extrovert.

Powerful, confident, outgoing.

When I first invited her for a skype conversation a few years ago, she didn’t even reply to the email.

That’s how scared she was to show herself – No camera, can’t do it!

But these days?

She’s at conferences, talking to people and selling.

She even took my suggestion to contact famous actors in her area, and ask them for a little time to take some photos.

Wanted to paint the actors as they are, not as the characters they play.

Scared the bejeebus out of her when I suggested it, but she did it.

Massive, impressive, grandiose change, and you won’t believe how grateful I am to see things like that happen in people.

And here’s the kicker:

Paula didn’t turn into an extrovert – because she had always been one.

But all her life, it’s like she’d been wearing someone else’s skin.

She stepped out of it, and became herself.

And, she’s got big big ambitions too.

She’s part of The Cabal, so if you’re like her and want to make big things happen, you’ll find her very inspiring if you join.

Now obviously, I can’t promise that you’ll get the same kind of results that Anook or Paula got.

But I guarantee that if you join, show up, and do the work, you’ll see change happen – right where it needs to happen:

On the inside.

And from there… who knows what else might change in your life?

As my coach says: “You’re the monk for entrepreneurs, Martin. Stop trying to be Business Repair Man”.

Good coach, I have :)

Anyway, Anook’s video is on the page after you click the link, as well as my invitation to apply for membership.

The link… is this one: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Cheers,

Martin

Weird Trick to Create Happiness and Productivity | Future Self

I open my eyes and ring the little brass bell.

An hour of solitary meditation has just past, and I’m hungry.

Martin is in his early twenties, and hey, this meditation thing is really beginning to have its effect.

I look around the room and see my cats, dozing in the windowsill.

Get up, go to the kitchen.

“Dinnertime!” and they come running.

Kibble in their bowls, and only then do I turn to make food for myself.

For the last weeks I’ve been contemplating ‘putting the other’s interest before mine’.

And my cats, well they’re ‘other’ too, right?

So they eat before I do.

Fun little practice, nice way to change how I go through the days.

I see the dishes in the sink, and I realise how much disorderly surroundings bother me.

I realise that when I’ll walk into the kitchen later, it’ll bother me again.

And then I strike upon something pretty brilliant (if I say so myself).

That Martin who’ll walk into the kitchen later…

That’s also an ‘other’!

That’s a future version of myself, that’s not me here&now – that will be a different person.

And hey, am I not practising doing favours for others?

Then why not do it for future Martin?

I clean up the mess, make my food, and eat.

And later when I come back into the kitchen, and see the shiny surface, I smile.

‘Gee thanks, past Martin!’

Now, I’m not going to say that I’m a saint and that I live a perfect life (ha! as if! :)

And the habit of taking care of Future Martin isn’t easy to stick to.

It comes and goes, depending on how tired/stressed/unfocused I am during different phases of the day or the year.

But, it’s a magnificent way to create gratitude, enjoyment, and happiness.

And that in turn improves my productivity and focus and fulfillment in my day-to-day.

So think about it.

In the choices you make and the things you give priority…

Do you take care of Future You?

Could change your life… as it did for me and still does.

Now, this taking care of future self is also the reason smart people invest in their own evolution and development.

Reading, learning, acquiring new skills… you put in the time so that the Future You will benefit.

Same with investments: you spend money on tools, training, equipment, help or education, so that you’ll benefit in the future.

You invest in your future, and your future self will reap the rewards.

So if you want to invest in yourself by way of joining The Cabal, and get weekly group coaching, here’s where you get the details: http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Either way: Take care.

Of your future self.

Cheers,

Martin

The Most Helpful, Empowering, Useful Thing I Could Possibly Give You…

…is, sadly, something that can’t be given.

But if I could, I would.

It would help you so much.

It would change your life, just as it did mine.

It would hold you accountable…

Keep you moving forward…

Help you solve problems…

Give you ideas to implement…

Change the way you look at yourself, your world, and your place in it…

Boost your confidence and your business skills…

Give you a hug when you need it, or a kick in the pants those moments when that’s what you need…

It would, almost inevitably, drive you on and on, to create more success and prosperity for yourself.

But I can’t give it to you, nobody can.

So what is this mysterious ‘thing’ that can’t be given?

A small, committed, loving group of ambitious, non-complainer, action-taking friends.

The kind of people who get what you’re trying to do, who understand what you’re building.

People who see through false and limiting beliefs, and gently call you out on them.

Friends who are as ambitious and committed as you are, to creating the life you want, and the money that goes with it.

People who never say ‘Yes but…’ when an idea or suggestion is presented, but have the correct attitude, the one that says ‘Ok, but how…’

People who take action, make things happen, and persist instead of throwing in the towel.

They say ‘show me your friends and I’ll show you your future’, and ‘we’re the sum of the 5 people we spend most time with’ and there’s a lot of truth to that.

Which is why I wish for everyone to have a TEAM of friends, helping each other and sharing freely from their experience and expertise.

But, you can’t give people friends.

(Would be pretty weird, to receive a parcel on your doorstep with a nice bow on it, and out pops somebody’s friend).

What you can do however, is create a group of people like that.

Surround yourself with a small team of makers, do-ers, action-takers.

Gather weekly, and each week give one person the spotlight.

That person explains where they’re at, what they’re aiming for and where they’re stuck…

And then the rest of the team unleashes the cumulative intelligence of the group on whatever issue needs dealing with.

This is exactly what a Mastermind group is about, and I assure you:

Being in one will change your life.

The first one I was in did exactly that, until the group disbanded for various reasons.

The Mastermind I’m in now does it too.

Incredible the effect it has, and all the others say so too.

So here’s my recommendation for you, today:

Build yourself a mastermind. Honestly.

Because I can’t give you the group of friends that drive you on.

What I can give you however, is an invitation to apply for membership to The Cabal.

It’s a small, powerful and intimate group of exactly the right people.

I know that because I interview each applicant, to make sure we get the most powerful group possible.

Part of the Cabal is a private forum, where you get to discuss topics related to business – an important part of a Mastermind.

Another part is weekly group coaching, where I’m not the boss or the leader, but instead facilitate the mastermind/spotlight conversations.

And, the third part is live 1 on 1 coaching in front of the group.

The Cabal… man how I love that name.

So, do you think you’d be the right person for such a group?

Do you take action, create solutions, help others, accept help?

If so, The Cabal for Business might be right for you.

More information here –> http://martinstellar.com/cabal-group-coaching-action-takers/

Cheers,

Martin

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