The other day, someone said: “When a buyer tells me no, or that they don’t have time to talk about my offer, I’m not really sure what to do.
“Usually, I default to trying again, push a little harder, try a different angle”.
Yesterday, someone else said: “When they tell me no, I just considered it a lost sale”.
Option 1, going in harder, will rarely work. If a buyer objects for whatever reason, there’s a fear going on, somewhere on a deep psychological level.
It’s the lizard brain signaling ‘danger’.
And if you press on, you’re only confirming to the lizard brain that it’s seeing things correctly (even if it isn’t), and objections and resistance increase.
Option 2 – walking away from the sale – obviously doesn’t help either.
But what about a middle way?
What if someone’s objection or refusal isn’t a rejection, or the end of the conversation, but instead it’s an invitation?
What if you use the no as a starting point for a different line of conversation?
What if the no is an invitation for you to… ask a question?
After all, a no means there’s something going on that prevents the yes, and why not try and figure out what that thing is?
Buyer says “No”.
You: “Excellent, thanks for telling me”.
You now know where you stand, and where they stand. And, you’ve honoured their stance graciously.
Next, you ask a question. For example:
“Can you tell me in what way the offer doesn’t meet your needs?”
Or: “Quick question: What would make it a yes?”
Or: “Shall I follow up with you at a later date, when you have more time?”
Or: “Is there anything else I can help you with?”
Or: “Would you like me to point at some resources that might help you solve XYZ? There’s a few books I know that might be useful to you”.
And if none of these seem appropriate, why not ask for an introduction?
“Anyone come to mind who might be interested?”
See, the no can never be met with force. It’s not nice, and not effective – not unless you’re a pushy seller and who wants to live in the 80’s?
And the no is never the end of a conversation, not if you keep the conversation open.
And you do that by asking questions.
Make sense, right?
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