I have no idea why so far, all Cabal members are female.
I mean, I’m totally outnumbered – but I guess it’s a good thing, given that these Wednesday Cabal meetings are becoming more productive and more fun with every week that goes by.
Especially yesterday, after someone commented on how amazing it is that such exceedingly different individuals forge such a strong group, and such strong bonds, almost instantly.
To me, it’s no surprise.
In fact, earlier that day I spoke with a new applicant, who had doubts:
“Will the other members be ‘my kind of people’?”
A fair question, of course.
So during the Cabal meeting, I took a moment to explain why these bonds develop so fast:
“There’s a reason membership is by invitation and interview only.
“For someone to join, I need to know that you are ‘MY kind of people’.
“That’s the one thing you all have in common, and it’s why you’re here.
“That right there is what creates a group that bonds so quickly, and why I deliberately select who would be a good fit.
“That’s why I created this space, for people exactly like you.
“Because you each have the qualities that are required to be part of a team like this”.
To which one of the members replied:
“You’re making me feel like we’re your brides!”
I hid my face in my hands, while everybody laughed out loud.
“All of Martin’s women…”
“I’m sure he’ll write an email about it!”
Yep, you betcha.
Good times, I tell you.
But let’s get serious.
The qualities, the aspects of character I look for in people, they matter a lot.
Not just for being part of this group, but also for being part of any group.
And, they matter for you, no matter who you are or what your work is or what your dreams are.
These qualities – which you can develop and adopt if you don’t have them all at the moment – are required for becoming successful.
And it doesn’t matter whether your male, female, or other.
But to succeed in life, you need to:
* Take responsability instead of blaming others
* Be willing to learn
* Be willing to receive (help, recognition, money – whatever life throws at you)
* Be helpful to others
* Be able to take yourself not so seriously
* Be willing to face your fears and demons
* Take action, relentlessly
* See failures as a way to grow, learn, and build resilience
* Have values and a purpose that contributes to others and society as a whole
* Be driven to overcome fears
* Be willing to be challenged
* Have a big ambition
Of course this list isn’t exhaustive.
The psychological make-up of successful people is far more complex than I can state here.
But if any of these elements is missing, you’d better develop it, because without all of these, success is hard to come by.
Which I know from experience:
For years, I didn’t take enough action, and I so often let fear stop me.
It wasn’t until that changed, that my life and business and happiness improved.
Do you identify with that description, and do you have those qualities (or are working diligently to develop the ones where you’re lacking?)
And you want to be part of this small, powerful, elite group of ambitious action-takers?
Then answer a few questions, and let’s talk.
Questions are here –> https://martin283.typeform.com/to/Tu3zmZ
If not, that’s fine – just do make sure you get your ducks in a row with the description above…