On Rose-Bushes, Pruning Life, and the Actual Hardest Word

Sorry Elton, but ‘sorry’ is not the hardest word. Not by a long shot.

They say that if you want a beautiful flourishing rosebush, the best is to get an enemy to prune it.

Because a rosebush will only grow into splendour if you cut it down radically – if I understand correctly, almost down to the core trunk. Leave too many branches, and the plant won’t be able to properly distribute water and nutrients.

Same thing with the things, people, places and habits in our lives and our business.

If there’s too many of those, and if they’re not of the kind that feed us, nourish us, bring out the best in us, we’ll constantly feel sapped of our energy.

We’ll be spread thin all the time, unable to put our energy (mental, emotional and physical) into the goals and tasks that make things awesome.

Which is why you’ll find that people who have an awesome life and a rocking business, generally go about things like a gardener.

Pruning away deadwood and deadweights. Snip snip.

And that means saying no.

Which is actually the hardest word.

We’re attached to so many things: thought patterns, opinions and beliefs, people and places and habits and things…

And we’re petrified of saying no.

Because, what if you’ll miss the thing you say no to?

You won’t, not if you do it right. Not if you say no enough, to enough things.

Because you’ll open up so much space in your life that you’ll find a whole bunch of far more fulfilling, rewarding, and potential-enabling things to fill the space.

Your life will get better, your business too, and those things that were there just because of attachments…

Wait, which things were those?

Exactly.

No is the hardest word, but also the most important.

Saying no and pruning away elements that hold you back makes a big difference.

So, question:

What’s there in your life or business, that you wish you could say no to?

Cheers,

Martin


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