One of the key aspects in the coaching process has to do with energy.
Specifically: which people, places, habits or things give you energy…
And which people, places, habits or things rob you of your energy.
Because everyone one of us falls into situations (and habits, relationships etc) that end up costing us far more energy than they should.
But very often we’re not aware of it.
It’s a thing that grows… things change and one day you realise that what used to be a fun hobby or great friend, these days no longer brings you the energy it used to.
When that happens, it’s time to make a decision:
Keep on with the new status quo, even though it wears you out?
Or sever the relationship (or give up the habit), completely?
Or change and redefine it, so that the cost will no longer be so high?
Whatever you do, it’s important that you do something.
Because if you don’t, you’ll keep expending energy without getting a return, and you’ll get drained.
For no better reason than not making a decision.
And yes, sometimes that means tough decisions.
But as I heard in a podcast today:
Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.
And there’s truth to that.
It’s easy to let a toxic relationship carry on unchanged.
But a toxic relationship messes with your happiness and productivity, so it might be a good idea to make the tough choice, and end it or change it.
Now it’s easy to see (and sometimes tough to change) a toxic relationship.
But in every life, there are smaller, subtler things that sap your energy.
The habit of thought for instance, can be an enormous energy drain.
When you’re in the habit of telling yourself things that undermine your self-confidence or your productivity, you’ll constantly find yourself doubtful and prone to procrastination.
And here’s the biggest problem with that:
We generally assume that time is our most precious asset, our most important commodity.
But it isn’t.
Your energy is far more precious.
Time resets itself each day, automatically. 24 hours to divide and assign, over and over again, each day.
But energy? That’s not something automatic. Your energy gets spent and then it needs to get replenished again.
Which means that you’d better pay very close attention to where exactly your energy gets spent.
And that is why when coaching clients, energy is something we often talk about.
Because you can always improve the way your energy gets spent or saved.
So if you feel that somehow you’re just not achieving as much as you think you could, there’s a real chance that it’s just because you’re losing energy where you shouldn’t.
And very often, that can be turned around very easily, especially when you talk to a coach or someone else who has the experience in solving this kind of problem.
So. Feel like you ought to have more energy for stuff, but you don’t?
Want to talk about how to change that?
Let me know…