There’s a saying in Spain, used when someone is spinning a BS-story:
Yo no compro esta moto.
I’m not buying that motorbike.
And while it’s a fun and quirky colloquialism, the actual meaning and purpose are extremely useful.
Because let’s face it: we all tell ourselves stories, and often those stories don’t help us.
You, me, everybody – we all do it.
“I could never do XYZ…”
“People just don’t pay such prices…”
“The world’s changed, those days are over…”
“I could, if only [fill in the blank]”
But those stories, most of the time, simply aren’t true.
“It’s impossible to run a mile in less than 4 minutes”.
That was considered a truth for centuries.
Until Roger Bannister did it in the 50’s, and suddenly it became something all kinds of people could do.
These days, it’s even a normal thing.
Except if you buy into the story that you can’t, that becomes the truth.
As a coach, one of my jobs is to watch for the stories that people tell themselves, and then call them out on it.
To say: I ain’t buying that motorbike.
For example: a few months ago, a client was working hard to launch a new line of products.
Making progress, but not getting any closer to launch.
Each time, there was another reason why this or that had to happen first.
At some point we were talking about how she needed copyright, before the product line could be launched.
And I said: “I’m not buying it.
“Copyright is good, but if you promote widely enough, you won’t need it.
“Your audience will call out copycats, if you’re the first.
“There’s something else going on here, and I have a strong feeling that once you get your copyright, there will be another reason to delay”.
My client looked at me and said: “Why are you being so negative?”
To which I replied: “That’s not my intention.
“I just need you to see that you’re trapped in a pattern.
“One which keeps you looking for reasons to put the launch off.
“It’s been happening for weeks now.
“And once you see that, and you recognise the pattern, that’s when you’ll really make progress”.
A moment of silence, and then: “Martin, you’re right”.
And from that moment on, progress was made, and the line was launched.
Because I didn’t buy into the story.
If I would buy into the stories people tell me, my clients would really be in trouble.
See, things are never as they appear on the surface.
There’s always more to it, always another side of things, always another option and another possibility.
When researchers put a monkey in a cage with only 4 ways to escape, the monkey found a 5th way (true story).
Don’t fall for appearances, and don’t believe the stories you tell yourself about limitations.
Always ask yourself: What am I missing?
What other options are there?
What if that were not true?
Be agile in your mind, be creative when confronted with limitations or obstacles.
There’s always a way.
And one way, is to work with me one on one.
I’ll help you find the ‘unseen way’ that works for you.
But, I’m not going to buy your motorbike.
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