I sighed, and told my coach:
“Watch me eat my own medicine”.
He laughed and said: “Do! I’m having a great time!”
Because, if I tell you the tips and tricks to make your life and business better, I should put them to use for myself too, right?
That girl in the photo…
I saw her on one of my morning walks, and she intrigued me.
Why did she take the time to make a photo of a parked bicycle?
Why did she have such a huge lens, and why did she make the picture from less than 2 meters away?
Was she an artist?
An art student?
All reasonable questions, right?
Especially for someone who is a) on the lookout to meet fun and interesting people and b) a photography enthusiast.
But I walked straight past her.
And then I stopped: “Talk to her Martin, why not?”
So I turned back and headed towards her.
Heart pounding in my chest.
And in the end, I stopped short and turned away.
Chickened out, I did.
No idea why, but when I related the story to my coach, I remembered that a while ago I told you that if you have trouble striking up a conversation, one good way to make it easier is to start asking people very simple, innocent questions.
Just as a way of practice, to get better at it.
But I myself, I couldn’t even bring myself to talking to the woman.
“Hi. Want to show me the photo?”
Or: “Are you a student, or a pro?”
Simple. Innocent. Breaks the ice.
But nope, Martin ran with his tail between his legs.
Well, no more of that.
In fact, the next day I saw Wim and his bike workshop, and I walked up and asked if I could make a few photos.
And, we ended up having a really great conversation, and that’s what business needs.
That being shy thing helps nobody.
Not me, not you, and not the people I end up not having conversations with.
Must say, the medicine tastes good, even if I’ll probably find it more difficult when it’s a woman instead of a man.
Still: I’m all for change, and so I’m working on making change happen for myself.
You could do the same thing.
When someone is looking at your work, ask: “What do you see?”
You never know what happens, once you get into a conversation.
But I can guarantee what happens when you don’t: nothing is what happens.
And I must say: change feels good.
You might want to try some for yourself…